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New York, NY

As I stare out of the oversized window of my New York City studio apartment, gazing out at a vibrant, fantastical and energized civilization, it has finally hit me, I have changed. And not a change associated with monotony and persistence of time; real change.  On the eve of my departure from the “world’s capital” […]

The Female Fixer

Male and female genders have many differences. One difference, which stands out the most in reference to dating, is the type of condition a potential ‘significant other’ maybe in when the relationship rituals begin. For men, it is quite simple (Complete Package). The prettiest, smartest, most athletic, most compatible, most talented best at sex and […]

Love + X = Everything

Since Patty Smyth and Don Henley informed me in 1992, I’ve known that “Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough.”  Knowing and understanding, however, are two very different things. It’s taken me well into my 30’s to understand why love, in fact, does not conquer all, but figuring out what love needed to be enough has been […]

Relationship Visualization

The mind is powerful.   In a world consumed by imagery, media and sensationalism constantly bombarding our thoughts and playing to our desires and weaknesses, the mind is powerful. Every success and accomplishment is predicated from an absolute choice originating from the mind. You can’t achieve success without first ‘believing’ you can succeed. Success not […]

Damn You Disney!

All it takes is turning on the radio, listening to the news, or simply talking to your friends to understand that Disney movies have set us up for failure.  The beautiful princess, the handsome prince, the obvious villain, the perfect love story, and the triumphant win of good over evil all set to a soundtrack […]

Chrisanomican Chapter 2 “Tempered Love”

Chrisanomican: Burden to Bear   More than three decades I have walked this earth and for more than three decades I haven’t felt further away from understanding this world, the people in it, than I do now. We (the world) want everything, but in the same breathe we (the world) want nothing. Promises and oaths […]

Cycle of Suck

There is absolutely nothing worse than being lied to, cheated on or betrayed by someone who you have invested all your trust and emotional faith into. It should never be expected or accepted that these vices dwell at the core of human nature. These traits are learned. They do not come with the package of […]

Socialtific Method

Do you like science, but hate thinking? Do you want to fall in love, but always fall for the wrong person over and over? If this describes you, then I have a solution (method) for you!  Science is the study of systematized knowledge of everything that is real. Love is the creation (or belief) in […]

Marriage Trainers

How ironic is it to write an opinion article on a social trainer blog when you yourself are a subscriber.  Even more ironic is looking for advice on what’s socially acceptable for a single person when you are married.  I am betting there are those of you who are frequent subscribers of this blog that […]


Finding myself listening to Johnny Cash’s “Hurt” on my iPhone again.  Every time I listen to this damn song I have to stop what I am doing and focus on Johnny’s soulful sound.  Remembering Elaine’s “Desperado” boyfriend from Seinfeld!   I never intentionally play him, but every now and then Johnny pops up randomly on shuffle […]

Summer Lovin’

It’s hot. You’re hot. Everyone is hot. And the last two sentences are not talking about the weather. I don’t care who you are, everyone looks better in less clothes, on a nice breezy day, the sun over head with the wind at their back. It’s also a fact that people are happier wearing less […]

This Way Up

We all have flaws, quirks, and the things that set us apart both in good and bad ways.  Deciding to be in a relationship with someone means accepting their flaws, loving those quirks, and bragging about the things you most love about the other.  It’s easy to find things you like in someone else.  Think […]

Seriously? Serious Relationships

There are quite a few people who don’t know the proper precursors of claiming and maintaining a “serious” relationship.  When you label a relationship as “serious” and throw around words like love and marriage and soul mate and “happily ever after”, there are certain criteria that go along with claiming such titles and attributes.  Below […]

Love and Crazy

Love and Crazy go together like Peanut Butter and Jelly  It goes without saying that love makes us do crazy things. Think about it. Patsy Cline, Madonna, Beyoncé, and Queen all have songs about the crazy things love makes us feel and do. Sometimes a little bit of crazy can be good, while other times, […]

Friend Collector

There are people who would outwardly and proudly diminish a term, removing all of its substance and attainment, to satisfy some inner quest of personal fulfillment, despite their paradox of self-satisfaction and reality…. Friend Collector [frend] [kuh-lek-ter] noun: A person who adds enormous amounts of people on their social networking pages just for the sake […]


Timing is everything… No really, timing is everything… Timing is the ultimate condition that determines outcomes in every facet of our lives.  From the love we share or lose, to the job we have or don’t have, to the glory we celebrate or the failure we suffer, timing is the force behind it all.  Every […]

Relationship Routes

Getting from Mars to Venus and Back Imagine this situation with me at Kung-Fu movie fight pace: Dude and Chick in Bar. Dude says, “Hey my name is Dude, can I buy you a drink?” Above him is a thought bubble… with one of the following: “She’s hot.” “I’m drunk… maybe I can take her […]

Sometimes, you have to make war to make love

Ladies, we know you hate war and love peace. You talk about it all the time, in both macro-scale and micro-scale. A week doesn’t go by where I don’t hear a woman (or a man who might as well be a woman) say something on the theme of ‘There’s no such thing as a good […]

Thanks for Something

We like to tell ourselves that we have become better, stronger people after a failed relationship and that the time spent in that failed relationship was responsible for teaching us some inspired piece of admonition used to hopingly contrive a piece of divine clarity for our future hookups.  I am here to tell you that […]

Dating Down

Dating down will “never” work.  The love between two people is more secure when both people are of equal status or each person has a superior life trait (beauty, power, money, intelligence, charisma, kindness, etc.) that is equal in dominance.  Dating someone below you or above you isn’t recommended for serious, long term relationships.  Beauty […]