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Breasts Don’t Make a Woman

May 17, 2012 | | Comments 16

Some girls grow into boobs and beauty, but unfortunately, not maturity.  To this I say: Grow up girls!  You’re making us all look bad.  Stop with the petty gossip, stop creating drama so that you feel like the center of attention, and get a hobby or a real job where you actually use your brain on a daily basis.  Plotting revenge against someone who has wronged you in this daily soap opera you’ve been creating since high school is simply embarrassing.  I can only equate it to Britney Spears shaving her head when the media wasn’t focused on her – not a good call, not a good look.  Think of that the next time you want to make some passive aggressive post on Facebook or Twitter.  Picture yourself with a shaved head and cut off shorts and decide if that’s the look you’re going for before you make another childish move in your ridiculous scheme.

If you’re unsure if you are one of these women who behaves like a little girl, ask yourself the following questions:

–          Have I recently posted a photo on Facebook (or any other form of social media) where I’m wearing a bikini, lingerie, or other revealing ensemble because “I looked hot”?

–          Have I recently been upset by a friend or acquaintance and, rather than calling that person to speak as adults and resolve a situation, called multiple other people to discuss the situation and ensure all mutual friends were on my side before contacting the person who upset me?

–          Have I tried to view my ex’s current girlfriend or wife’s Facebook page?

–          Have I shared with my friends the pictures I found on the internet of my ex’s current girlfriend or wife and made rude comments about her?

–          Have I befriended former enemies because we both share a common enemy now?  (Hint: if you weren’t friends in high school or college, but now are because the same boy hurt you both – the answer is yes!)

–          Do I believe that being “hot” is the same as being “beautiful” or that being “hot” is better than being “beautiful”?

–          Have I slept with a guy who made it clear he didn’t want a relationship, then called him names and cried because he wouldn’t commit to me after we had sex?

–          Have I always relied on the financial help of my parents, boyfriend, or spouse and never been able to support my lifestyle without their help? This includes paying your own credit card bills, rent, buying your own clothes and meals, etc.

–          When I go out with my girlfriends, do I speak louder and at an octave higher than my usual speaking voice?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, if you have a picture of yourself seductively licking a lollipop, if you hold your phone out to take pictures of yourself (any picture of yourself) and then post them on Facebook, or if you own a pair of Juicy Couture sweatpants that read “Juicy” on the butt, then get offended when males make lewd comments to you when you wear them – It is now time you own up to the fact you behave as a girl, rather than the woman you should be.  Similar to a man who earns his stripes, earn that cup size you paid for (padded bras included).

 

Helpful Tips:

–          Present yourself in a way that commands respect and shows intelligence and dignity.  Everything from your actions to your clothing should warrant respect.  You don’t have to dress like a nun to be respected, nor do you have to dress like a stripper to be considered sexy.  Examples: Angelina Jolie, Reese Witherspoon, Victoria Beckham, Halle Berry.  A good rule of thumb is bikinis belong at the pool or beach, lingerie belongs in the bedroom, and unless all of Facebook is accompanying you to either of these places, they don’t need to see your “hot” body in either of these items posted on your wall.

–          If someone doesn’t appreciate your value, keep him or her at a distance rather trying to make them like you or get back at them for not liking you.

–          Pay attention to your life.  Have goals and objectives that are you own, not the goals of the person you’re dating.  Allow your goals to evolve.  Be more than you wanted to be in high school.  Whether that’s being the CEO of a corporation, or the best mother you can possibly be – commit yourself to your goals.

–          Be nice, compassionate, nurturing, and loving, but don’t confuse these with weakness.  Realize that true beauty comes from within and childish and vindictive actions will make you look ugly no matter how pretty your face is or how large your chest is.

–          Communicate like a woman.  Speak clearly and concisely exuding confidence and intelligence.  There’s no need to speak in high tones that make you sound as if you’ve inhaled some helium, or like a sex kitten from a 900 number, in order for you to be the center of attention.  Real men would rather listen to an intelligent woman speak rather than an airhead giggle and squeak any day of the week.

–          Establish and maintain boundaries for yourself and your friends.  Hold yourself as accountable for your actions as you hold your friends for theirs.  Own up to your mistakes and apologize for your side of the argument.  Don’t expect your friends to forgive and move forward if you cannot.

–          Take an honest look at yourself and your actions.  If a relationship in your life is strained, be honest with yourself about what actions of yours contributed to the strain.  Don’t expect your friends to be perfect when you are not.

Take the high road.  If a relationship has to end, be it friend or lover, move forward with grace and respect.  Spreading rumors, threatening a person’s reputation or livelihood, or repeatedly calling crying and attempting to guilt-trip the person are all forms of malicious and childish behavior.  In the end, you’ll only be embarrassed for these actions when you finally do mature and start behaving like a modern, classy, sophisticated, and desired WOMAN.

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  1. chrisatrice69 says:

    I would pick classy and beautiful over sexy and slutty any day. If my mom wouldn’t approve, then it isn’t even worth entertaining. I want someone who is going to give me a challenge and put me in my place, instead of being submissive and doing what I say all the time. That is why I don’t date Asian girls…just kidding, but seriously.

  2. Sexy is very important, but it’s not exuded through crotch-ventilating dresses or shelf-tits, and that’s what a lot of women lack to realize. Telling a funny joke, caring more about having a good time than looking the part, and even doing something extreme like paying for shots or picking up the tab for dinner *gasp!* have always worked for me 🙂

  3. Ben Wiggins says:

    Totally agree! Great article, Laura!

  4. Loser says:

    The hypocrisy of this article and all affiliated with this web site are quite intriguing.  Thanks for the laughs.

  5. chrisatrice69 says:

    Hypocrisy? Almost like hiding behind a fake name and email account, but not realizing that your IP address points to Deer Park Texas? Geez, I wonder what intellectuals are trolling socialtrainers.com out of pure spite! Thank you for the laughs!

  6. Loser says:

    It’s no secret that you would get that.  It’s just something that needed to be said.

  7. chrisatrice69 says:

    There are a lot of things needed to be said, but I don’t say those things b/c I can care less. But it is just funny to me how much I mean to you since you are trolling my website and commenting on an article written by someone who you have never met and still making it about you just for the sake of drama. Pretty sad if you ask me. Not everything is about you lol..trust me 🙂

  8. I can’t say I’m not thrilled this conversation is taking place.  This type of behavior is
    precisely why I wrote the article! For the rest of you reading this, I promise I didn’t ask someone I know to leave these comments.  In fact, I don’t know anyone from Deer Park, TX (I’m not really even sure where Chris is from in TX).

    I’m responding only because I wrote the article:

    The point is that there is a time and place and appropriate form of behavior that should be taken into consideration before action when one is an adult. Whether male or female, as children we lack the maturity to understand that we shouldn’t always “act out” our feelings.  As we grow, most of us understand there is a better way – timing and control of emotion allow us to better achieve the results we desire.

    Something “needing to be said” under a nameless poster is addressed in the first paragraph of my article. I also continually point out that social media is NEVER the appropriate place to address strained relationships or express a dislike toward someone. It’s clear Chris believes you are constantly checking his website – also addressed in the article above and why I say that women should get hobbies and jobs that occupy their time with things that actually matter, rather Facebook, Twitter, and Socialtrainer.com stalking.
     
    Finally, I’d like to point out that while you did not use your real name, you call yourself “Loser” and I can’t help but wonder if that was your subconscious speaking because you know better than to have an argument with Chris on a website.  As G.I.Joe says though, “Knowing is half the battle.”

  9. Oh, this is sweet… My four year old daughter has learned that “feelings”, no matter if negative or positive are OK, but some actions are OK and some are not.  You can feel angry about any petty little thing you want, but a rational adult (say… one that doesn’t marry a person after knowing them for 6 months and seeing them 2 weeks every 2 months) knows how to project their feelings in a mature and constructive way.  That’s also something that my neandrethal ex-fiance lacked… Like I said, “Partners in Crazy.”

  10. Mike (see: Editor) says:

    A well made sandwich goes a long way too

  11. Andrew Kohl83 says:

    LOL.  You people really are awesome!  Michelle, one of April’s best friends felt the need to reply here, and then immediately wished she hadn’t.  I honestly wish she hadn’t have said anything to spark my curiousity here either as this is a real drain, and (as seen) only does herself a disservice.  Michelle is in Deer Park.  April and I live in PEARLAND.  If April decides to stoop to your level here I’m sure Chris, who also seems to be mistaken, can easily verify that.  A couple months ago I had written a long essay instructing Michelle not to do something like this… not to be bothered by things like this…. and just now again.  I wish you all the best with this cynical pile of nonsense and garbage you have going here.  Honestly, all we ever do is encourage people to not say anything bad about any of you… including Michelle.  No ambiguous comments, no negativity.  Why can’t you do that for us??I honestly PRAY fo you and your family.  We both do.  I wasn’t the greatest to you… and you weren’t the greatest to me.  But things worked out amazingly…  Right?  Your neanderthal ex-fiance wishes you and your new family the best.  That really is the case.  If I didn’t think you would scoff at me I would have said this before already… …. Congratulations.  I have nothing critical to say about any of your lives and I hope (against all odds) that you can bring yourselves to do the same in the future. 

  12. Don’t compare us and our actions. You and I both know why you feel the need to be so “kind” and “forgiving” to me… And it has nothing to do with turning a new leaf, it has to do with not tarnishing this altered reality you’ve set up for yourself by being exposed. For someone who is off saving the free world, you sure do have a lot of free time on your hands to write so many short essays.  And as far as praying, do whatever you need to do to try to find redemption.  I don’t wish ill-will towards you or your “wife”, I don’t wish anything towards y’all, my life revolves around so much more than me, my “accomplishments” and “my happiness.”  And as far as “stooping to my level,” your pious wife reached out to a man I was still seeing, whom she’d never met, out of spite, and stalked my fb and has made childish comments towards me (and then contradicted herself to try to come off as “nice”), as well as her equally mature intellectual friends… Neither of you knows the truth about the other… But my mother and I are very very very happy that you have finally moved on, let go, and have moved on to the next one…

  13. Aprilanndesigns says:

    <3 Awww, I love my friends and my husband, they are always looking out for me. Thank you. I just got home from a nice day with family and was informed of this rampant silliness. I didn't read the blog nor do I care too so I really don't know what the fuss is over. All I know is that there seems to be some confusion. I have no ill will towards Mike, Chris or Ileana. Everyone had seemed to move forward with their lives with marriage and a baby on the way, I think it's great! By the way, Congratulations with the baby. However, I don't think it's wrong of me to ask that everyone continues moving on with their lives. I just want everyone to stop the insults and the negativity. I love life, I love Love, I feel very blessed and I just want everyone else to experience a positive life. I fully believe in the statement "To exercise the muscles of the heart, one must lift anothers spirit". Life is way to short to focus on past hurts. Let's just continue life…there's so much more out there than this nonsense. Love & Laughter always, April Ann

  14. chrisatrice69 says:

    Stoop to my level? The writer of this blog doesn’t even know you or your wife lol, yet you think it is about you and your lives. WRONG. Take your own advice and stop trolling our lives. I appreciate the fact that socialtrainers is reaching so many people who actually NEED social training but even I admit when a cause is lost…

  15. I’ve never met you and you’ve never met me, so it’s fair to say you really would have NO basis for congratulating me or my family for anything.  Being fake is not necessary.  The only thing a person can strive for is transparency and peace in their lives. And, no, you have no place to ask anything of any of the aforementioned people, seeing as how much trouble and headache you’ve cause each of their lives.

  16. You had me at your proper use of “to” and “too”

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